I have this friend that I get to interact with twice a week. When I first met him he had a girl friend, so I just decided to get to know him, and become a good friend. He ended up breaking up with his girl friend not too long ago. He then would chat with me about this girl in Provo that he really liked. I gave him encouragement and advice to go and pursue it. (To give a little insight into the story he is going to leave out of state for the summer to work.) Last night at one of our encounters he gave me a hug before we all left. That was the first time I had got a hug from him.
The same night on Facebook I told him about how I was kind of sad that one of our mutual acquaintances didn’t show up. I then told him about how I was kind of starting to like this acquaintance. He told me that he thought it was cool, and that I should keep inviting him to gatherings so I could get the chance to talk to him more. I told him thanks for letting me talk about it. He told me that it was not a problem and that he knew that I trusted him when I told him about stuff like that. He then said that he knew that I put him in the friend zone so he’ll now never have a chance with me and then ended it with “lol”. I was drawn back with this, said what, and then told him that I didn’t know that I did that, but okay. He then said that if someone talks to you about someone they like and it isn't you, in his book it means they aren't into you. I then responded with that it wasn’t true in my eyes, but I’m not the typical girl. If I talk to someone about stuff like that it means that I’m comfortable with them and trust them. I told him then that I honestly wouldn’t turn him down to a date. He then responded with “Ha ha ha, maybe when I get back.”
So, I am left confused. Was he just joking? Or was he serious? Was I in the right of being confused? In his standards, didn’t he put me in the friend zone too when he talked about the gal from Provo? How do you define the friend zone? How do you know if you are in the friend zone? Why is there this stupid thing called the friend zone? Or was he thinking that since he's leaving next week for four months that, "What the hey, I'll tell her that I'm interested?" I’m looking for your opinions. :)
*Let me clarify: I am not really into this person, just was kind of interested*
