Commitment

I was recently thinking of the old adage that states “men are more likely to flee from commitment than women”

I learned in sociology that men love more quickly than women and women tend to fall out of love faster.  So if it were somewhat having to do with that then I would say that women flee more than men.  I don't think men are afraid of commitment, really.  Some women are weird and get too attached, too fast, and that scares them. It happens the other way around, but not nearly as often, and so women chalk it up to the fact that men are afraid of commitment. If guys can find a good girl that won't scare them, they are the most committed, loyal people I've ever met.  On the flip side, I have met men that are not willing to commit to a relationship, or break off a relationship because of how “serious” it got.  If a man is not ready for marriage, he will flee from a relationship when it gets too serious.  

 In general there is too much bias and men are more likely to say women run from commitment and women are more likely to say men do. From my experience, it's in no way gender based but rather purely individual. There are way too many committed men and women to point fingers at a specific gender.

To help get  more insite into this statement I decided to interview three different people that are at different points in their life:

The first person I interviewed about this topic was a 30-year-old single female.  She agreed with the statement.  She said, “How often do you see men begging their girlfriends to get married? I'm not saying it doesn't happen, but not as often. Society teaches men that perpetual bachelorism and not committing to one woman makes them suave and debonair. Whereas settling down with one woman and being happy with her makes him a pansy.”   

The second person I interviewed was a 42-year-old divorced male. He said that if it is true, he thinks what most men struggle with is not the desire to make a commitment, but rather with where or not the commitment is right for them.   

The third person I interview was a 23-year-old married female.  She said that she thought that commitment is an issue for both men and women in this new age of time. Women want to be big independent super stars. If they can’t find a man who will help them live up to that then they are going to avoid commitment. She also said that she thought that these independent super stars need to give the guys a brake. This can happen both ways.

I now want to know what you think.  Are men more likely to flee from a commitment, or is it women? Or all together, does gender not even matter in this subject?